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Merry Christmas From Torie 

Time Wasters

Update 

This post is causing quite a stir. When I talk about time wasters I am not talking about genuine clients.  I am talking about those men who have no intention of meeting up with their lady of choice for companionship. They get their kicks from calling up professional ladies of pleasure on the pretense that they want a booking but knowing full well they have no attention of making the appointment or they turn up to 'look and go'. 

The overwhelming majority of men who  make appointments are, respectful, genuine and a pleasure to spend time with. Things happen and sometimes you have to cancel engagements/ meetings etc. So if you fall into this category ( as most men do)  please don't think I am talking about you. Because I am not. I hope this clears things up. 

OK. I thought long and hard (excuse the pun) about writing this blog post but I thought why not?! It’s my blog. I write about what interests me. Besides I am a bit of a rebel and dance to the beat of my own drum. I do my own thing. I always have. It has its strengths and weaknesses.

One of the pet peeves and occupational hazards about escort work is the dreaded time wasters. These are men ( let’s face it the majority of people who visits escorts are men) who have no intention of meeting up with a professional lady of pleasure. However, get their kicks by wasting escort’s time in the following ways.

Not turning up for an appointment
Cancelling an appointment at the very last minute
Contacting  the escort on numerous  occasions to talk about a booking they never attend to honour
Turning up for an appointment ( without the escort’s booking fee) just to have a ‘good look’ at her and giving some lame excuse about how she looks nothing like she does in her pictures or she looks older/younger.
Constant cancelling of appointments/rescheduling.

I could go on but I will stop.

Yes. The time waster is like a sore that never seems to go away and from time to time it erupts. Every professional lady of pleasure has a story to tell and has at least experienced one of the above.

What these men (who are a small minority –but a major pain) don’t realise is that when an escort makes an appointment she does so  in good faith. The escort is spending her time arranging an intimate get together. This could include arranging accommodation, buying a special outfit for the occasion as well as getting ready for the rendezvous. Not only that but she can’t take other bookings for that particular time she has set aside for you.

So if you, cancel at the last minute, don’t show up or do show up and leave because ‘she looks nothing like her pictures’ that means that a genuine client who wanted to spend time with her loses out. She also loses out too

Imagine if you ran your own business or were an employee and someone caused you to spend a lot of time doing something that is unnecessary or does not produce any benefit you would not be too pleased or happy about it. Why would you?!  Nobody likes a time waster, including us escorts.

Tell me what you think in the comments. 

xxx

Torie 

10 Best Hot Places in London

I have a soft spot for reality shows especially the ‘Real Housewives’ franchise – Atlanta, Beverley Hills and New York are my favourites. Yep. I can appreciate ‘trash’ television when it’s good and the cast members give the audience a knowing wink. You know don’t take it too seriously. It’s entertainment! All this orchestrated drama is for your viewing pleasure. And I eat it up. 

Oh yes! I can be frivilous.

I recently got addicted to 'Ladies of London'. A new London based reality show which is part of Bravo’s ‘Real Housewives' franchise. The clue is in the title. We get to fallow a group of affluent US and British women as their go about their daily glamorous lives (do people really live like this? Of course!) for our consumption. The Americans do seem to be like fish out of water, desperately trying to fit into British society but not quite succeeding. As a Brit I find it all bizzare. And the opening credits just play up to stereotypes.

The breakout star (she’s got everybody talking) is Caroline Stanbury. A rather attractive, blonde, upper class lady with a sharp tongue, a witty reply to hand and a heart of gold. Although she tries desperately to hide it.  Caroline seems to know the people who ‘matter’ in London society. She’s been making all the rounds on US television and media giving interviews. One of those interviews was to  USA Today – I guess a national tabloid newspaper similar to our Daily Mail, the Sun and Daily Mirror - giving advice on British etiquette and sharing her top ten best places to visit when in London. This is the whole reason for this post. It's a rather long winded way to get there but we get there. So below is Ms Caroline's list of the hottest places in London Town right now.

10 best hot places in London

1. Chiltern Firehouse; 1 Chiltern Street, Marylebone

The place to be. Reservations are about who you are and who you know.

2. La Bodega Negra; 9 Old Compton Street, Soho

Mexican food with grand style.

3. 34; 34 Grosvenor Square, Mayfair

A modern-day classic with gorgeous drink selection and impeccable food

4. Scott's; 20 Mount Street, Mayfair

Oysters and champagne, darling

5. Coya; 118 Piccadilly, Mayfair

Great Peruvian food

6. 5 Hertford Street – Loulou; 5 Hertford Street, Mayfair

This is a private club. But you might spot a star outside . . .

7. Zuma; 5 Raphael Street, Knightsbridge

Amazing Japanese izakaya-style dining

8. Mr. Chow; 151 Knightsbridge, Knightsbridge

The original (of half a dozen locations) – and always a favourite

9. Bvlgari Hotel's Il Bar; 171 Knightsbridge, Knightsbridge

Cool and contemporary

10. The Connaught; Carlos Place, Mayfair

A Delectable Interlude

If you are familiar with my blog you would  have noticed that I don't blog  about my assignations. The reason being is that I am a private person and value discretion and would never want to disclose personal information. Two I’m no writer.  However, a few days after the most delightful escapade, the thought of it still lingers in the memory, I had to put pen to paper to share with you.

I met my paramour on a lovely, sunny, London afternoon. Did I mention that I love afternoon rendezvous. I find them naughty and salacious because, you know, must people are stuck in the office,  call centre, factory floor, classroom hard at work. And here I am enjoying a pleasurable afternoon with a generous lover who knew what he was doing.

Y was well-groomed, attractive, softly spoken and on time. He had a calming aura about him.  He was a true gentlemen. Within five minutes of our meeting he had kindly passed over my donation in a white envelope. Once the paperwork was done, Y freshened up before joining me in the bedroom. By this time I had disrobed my wrap dress which clung to my curves. Y looked upon me appreciatively. We embraced and started kissing – soft , firm kisses probing each other mouths and tongues. Our hands moved effortless over each other’s bodies. We took ourselves to bed. 

Y like me loves to kiss. We kissed long and hard and then we would change pace  to slow and sensual -  teasing each other. He held me firmly down our hands intertwined. His tongue licking, sucking and caressing my breasts. Y moved stealthily down my body, probing, seeking out my pleasure points , stopping short of my secret garden.  I was withering around the bed in ecstasy enjoying his tongue and his hard body against mine.  Wondering where his tongue would be next.

He asked me if I liked a certain oil. I replied why yes. He then put a little bit of the oil on my nipples. The coolness of the oil on my warm brown skin excited me. He gently took my nipple in his mouth and licked and sucked. My nipples were now erect – standing to attention. As he applied more oil onto my warm skin I was getting more and more excited. His hands were strong and urgent.  He slowly went down to my thighs and legs. He took my foot and sucked on my toes, using his teeth to gently stroke and massage. It was unbelievable. I truly enjoyed the sensation of his tongue, teeth and hands.

I lay on my stomach while he poured more oil onto my skin. Massaging it in with strong, confident strokes. I was waiting in anticipation as he made his way to my derriere kissing and caressing. Rubbing more oil between my thighs and buttocks– touching my most intimate places. Then I felt his tongue between my cheeks, darting, licking and flicking. I cried out for more. Y I like it when you do that.

I was getting more aroused.  I turned around and grabbed him and we kissed, long, vigorous kisses. I licked his nipples and worked effortless down. I took him in my mouth, gently kissing, licking, and teasing. Y was moaning and groaning. I devoured it. We lay there. I took my magic wand and placed it on my sugary wall.  As he watched, I pleasured myself (always love to pleasure myself. No shame). The motion was intense and hard as it vibrated against my pink. I climaxed and felt the warm cum trickle down my thighs.

xxx

Tee

New Look

I have some exciting news to share. I'm getting a new website and domain name. This is good news indeed. 

I have recently been getting quotes from website design companies. The whole experience reminded me of the days when I had a' proper job'. It was a tough decision  but I know I've made the right choice.

It will be launching soon, give you something to look forward to. I think you are going to like it. You can tell me your thoughts when we meet, maybe over dinner,  afternoon tea or a romantic afternoon rendezvous - one of my favorite things to do.

xxx

Torie 

Update:Technical Issues Resolved. Please Excuse the State of my Blog

Hello

This is just a quick post to say sorry for the look of the blog. I have no idea what these strange circles are. I can assure you it's not a design. feature!

I visited the blog a few days ago and saw these strange circle images all  over the blog. What I noticed was the posts with me in my lingerie or laying topless on a bed were not displaying. So I have deleted those posts but the weird circle images are still there. 

Reaching out to all your IT geeks out there, if you may know what might be up please do get in touch. 

Maybe it is a blessing in disguise - as I am in the processing of  revamping my website and blog.  I am getting quotes at the moment. Hopefully my new website and blog will be launched in late August or early autumn. I'm beyond excited. The current website is old and tired and doesn't do my new stunning photos any justice. This was the prompt I needed.

Talking about my new photos go and visit my website  click  here and feast your eyes on me. I hope you like them as much as I do. I have had amazing feedback. Which has been great. 

PS I hope you are all having a wonderful summer. The weather here in London has  been great. We had a little heatwave a while ago. However, I must admit I do find the heat  oppressive though. 

xxx

Torie 

Repost - 20 Things They Never Tell You About Being A Sex Worker

This is a repost from Grace Bellavue an Australian sex worker who has a pretty big presence on Twitter.  You should follow her at @Gracebellavue

If I had known these 20 things I would have done more research, planning and  put more  thought into it.However, did I make the write decision? Yes. I enjoy my job and I love the fact that I don't have to answer to anyone. 

Grace

So I was inspired by this post – ’50 Things they never tell you about being a chef’ and figured I’d do something similar.

Sex work is an amazing journey and one I’ve been on for almost nine years. It can be rough, brutal, inspiring, easy, transformative, heart-breaking and simultaneously empowering and disempowering in the same breath. I’ve worked in agencies and gained my own personal agency as a woman and sex worker. I’ve worked in brothels and also run my own business where I am in complete control over my branding, marketing and clientele.

I get emails frequently from women and men curious about entering the sex industry and often wonder whether they can hack it in the long term mentally, emotionally and physically. Being on the forefront of humanity and entering and being entered by other people on a primal level can take it’s toll. It also has its downsides as anything does. You can’t have the champagne and the hotel suites without a few hiccups or practicalities along the way.

20 Things They Never Tell You About Being A Sex Worker

1. You’ll develop either a depressed or super human immune system. From kissing to swapping spit, touching genitals, pre-cum, cum, girl squirt, fingers in orifices and people touching you – you come in contact directly with a huge range of people from all walks of life. Be prepared to get hooker flu or ride out the winter season safely assured you’re probably immune to all the current viral strands. This doesn’t make you immune to STI’s though. You’ll learn your body IS your business, so the safest sex you can provide whilst keeping your economic goals in mind is healthier for you and the community. You’ll either develop an external outside of work bareback/cum fetish or be so paranoid fucking someone without a condom that you’ll take 50m of plastic wrap where ever you go.
2. Your social life will suffer. Two options. You’re too stressed keeping a massive secret from your friends, family, partner and community to really engage because you’re worrying your secret will get out. If you are open, you’ll be paraded around a party as “Look! My Friend is a Hooker!”. Suddenly your night off is spent answering 100,000 inane and ignorant questions that are deeply offensive and personal. Cosimawhore said it best.
3. Your personal relationships will suffer. Either you’re in the “too hard” basket or someone is just wanting a free fuck, or you’re so exhausted that a little bit of alone time is more satisfying.
4. If you’re working privately, sex work can be very alienating. You’re 24/7 in hotels and apartments or strange clubs either waiting or doing admin or seeing clients. Touring can be isolating. You’ll be grateful for the interstate and international contacts of sex workers when you get cabin fever, or friends. Don’t shit on the sex worker community, they will be your lifesaver when you least expect it.
5. If you’re working in a brothel – be prepared for some of the most competitive and catty environments you’ve ever encountered. Whilst most are good, sex workers are tough and astute creatures, and you will be sussed out. When in, they’re the most amazing community on earth. When you’re arrogant, self entitled, undercut or steal other workers clientele in addition to creating a negative working environment, you will be targeted. Also, don’t underestimate jealousy.

You can read the rest of the post on her blog here.

Torie 

xxx

PS - Beyond excited for my glamour photoshoot on Monday 14 July. I can't wait to share my new photos with you. So check back often.

Beach Ballet

Beach Ballet  on some beach in Denmark -  Katherine Dunham Dance Troupe- Jacqueline Walcott, Francis Taylor and Lou Camacho 

Belle - True Story of a Mulatto Gentlewoman in 18th Century Britian

Dido and her cousin Elizabeth

Hello Reader

I don’t often go to the cinema but this weekend we went to see the film Belle. It’s a period piece and I love historical drama. The BBC’s adaptation of Jane Austen’s Pride and Prejudice  - the one with Colin Firth -  is one of my favourite dramas and I watch the series at least once a year.  I am a sucker for romance and happy endings.

Back to Belle - the film is inspired by the true story of Dido ( great name) Elizabeth Belle the illegitimate  ‘mulatto’ daughter of a English aristocrat – Admiral Sir John Lindsay and a black female slave named  Maria Belle. 

As slaves could not consent I can only imagine that Dido like so many ‘mulatto’ of the time was the product of rape.

 Belle was raised at Kenwood House by her great uncle Lord Mansfield and his wife. 

Due to her linage Belle enjoyed privileges that other mulatto and black slaves were denied.  In the British Colonies she would have been considered a slave but in England she was given an education and raised as a gentlewoman. However, because of her mother’s ‘race’ Belle’s status within the Mansfield’s household was below that of her cousin Elizabeth and thus prevented her from the traditions of noble social standing. While her cousin Elizabeth could dream of having flirtations and finding a suitable husband, Belle’s ambiguous status left her on the side-lines wondering if she would ever find love, get married and be the mistress of her own household.  

 Belle meets the idealistic son of a vicar who is full of passion and determination to change the world for the better. He and Belle help to shape Lord Mansfield’s role as Lord Justice to end Slavery in England.

I enjoyed the film and it was pleasure to see a part of British history – slavery and the black British presence prior to  the Windrush ( 1948) - been depicted in a mainstream film. The Black British presence goes back to Roman times.  By the 18^th Century black people were an integral part of British society:

“They worked in a wide variety of occupations, reacted to atrocities, campaigned to end slavery , became political activists, and had a lively social life"  http://www.nationalarchives.gov.uk/pathways/blackhistory/work_community/relationships.htm

Prior to seeing Belle I was familiar with the story of Dido. There is a painting of Dido and her cousin Elizabeth which hangs at Scone Palace in Scotland and is owned by the present Earl of Mansfield. The painting was quite unusual and maybe a little scandalous at the time because Dido and Elizabeth are depicted as equal which was unheard of as people of colour where always portrayed in a subordinate role.

I know some people would consider this a female flick whatever that means but if you are interested in British history, morality, slavery or enjoy  a period drama I suggest you go and see this film. 

What I want to See Next

The next film I want to see is Maleficent Starring Angelina Jolie as Maleficent. It’s great to see strong female characters on screen. We need more of them.   The film has been the biggest hit of Angelina’s career. To top it off she’s been made an honorary Dame by the Queen for her work to end sexual violence in conflict.  

Thanks for reading.

P.S It’s past midnight and instead of going to bed I’m going to make a lemon drizzle cake. Let’s hope it turns out OK as I’m a little tipsy as I write. So if this post doesn’t make sense blame it on the  To be Merlot. 

Till my next posting

 x

T   

PPS the reason I don't post often is I'm more of a talker and a listener than a writer. I have a love hate relationship with writing. I do find it therapeutic at times  and other times bloody frustrating. 

So You Are Attracted To Me Because of My Race?

I have been reading a lot about racial fetishes and it’s made me think why it’s wrong to be attracted to a person’s race. What do you mean? Well if you think Asian 'chicks' are submissive, Latina women or hot and black women are freaks, have beautiful skin and  full lips then your attraction is based on race and not that particular woman's  personality or physical attributes. 

 A racial fetish is when someone finds people of another race attractive based on racist stereotypes about that race:   

• Asian women are submissive, weak and know how to look after a man.
• Latina women are hot, fiery and spicy
• Black women are freaks in bed, have attitude and need to be dominated
• How about this one - black men have big dicks.

I am not saying that you cannot find someone of another ‘race’ desirable. It’s Ok to like a woman of colour as people and individuals but it’s not OK to like a woman of colour based on stereotypes. Stereotypes generalise people within a group, emphasising sameness and ignoring individual variety. We are not all the same.

If your attraction is ‘race’ based you are treating women of colour differently from the women of your own race because of the colour of their skin. You are not attracted to that particular woman of colour but your idea of what women from that race are like. Women of colour are human beings too. We cry, get angry, love laugh and have hopes and dreams. We have the same bodily functions as our white female counterparts. 

So to sum up it is Ok to be attracted to someone of a different colour/race or ethnicity than you. But it is not OK when that attraction is based on racist stereotypes. 

So have you been attracted to someone because of their race? Let me know in the comments. 

Tee

Where have I been?

Hello

It's been so long since I've written a post. In fact I think it was spring of last year. What can I say?!  I am more of a conversationalists than a writer. I think the best way to engage with me is via my twitter account @EbonyEscortUK. However, thank all of you who have stuck around. 

I can’t believe that spring 2014 is here already.  I don't want to wish our lives away but in a few months we'll be halfway through the year.

I have been busy living and working and things are going well. I can't promise that I will do regular blogs posts but I won't leave it so long next time. 

Kisses

Torie